In reality, asking 21 questions is too much. It’s best to get to the questions that matter. I came up with a few questions, that are deeper than we expect.
WHAT MOTIVATES YOU EVERYDAY?
What motivates them everyday is important, because it provides insight into the significant people, pets, or things in someone’s life. This can lead to a very deep conversation, as sometimes motivation entails an evolving story someone is going through.
WHERE ARE YOU FROM/WERE BORN?
The birthplace of where someone was raised, will say a lot about their upbringing. Some people have stories about their raising that can get quite emotional. For some people, sharing where they are from is sensitive, but it’s a good start to opening up about oneself.
ARE YOU CLOSE WITH YOUR MOM? DAD?
This is a sensitive question, no matter how one is asked. It’s sensitive, because it’s not always a simple answer and will prompt leaves to start falling from the tree. Truth is, some people are not close with their parents, which is a story of its own.
WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE COLOR?
Asking someone what their favorite color is may seem to be childish, but it’s deeper than that! Every color, represents varied of moods, symbols, and purposes; This usually will tell you much about a person’s energy.
WHAT’S MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU RIGHT NOW IN LIFE?
Priorities are essential in life, as not every aspect in one’s life can be equally important. If it came down to nothing else, what’s most important? You’ll be surprised how this question prompts a sensitive side from people.
DO YOU BELIEVE IN GOD?
It’s unfair and unrealistic to predetermine that someone believe in God, or a higher power, if we don’t ask. If you’re going to ask this question, just understand you won’t always get the answer you’re looking for. This may change how you perceive someone, either way they answer.
DO YOU WANT A FAMILY?
Values is the heart of us, therefore someone wanting a family is true to who they are. Usually, when someone doesn’t want or isn’t open-minded to starting a family, they will try to explain why not. Sometimes, it’s best not to ask why not, if they answer no — Just run!
HOW’D YOU GET THAT SCAR?
Asking someone about a scar that you’ve seen on them, is just as uncomfortable, as this question being answered. Scars are a reminder of taunting times or horrendous people in the past. A scar can only spoke so many words, so listen and be there to comfort them as they answer how they got their scar.